After a day of being thankful with friends and family we quickly shift gears and jump into the madness of Black Friday, and after a few days of recuperation we’re back at it with Cyber Monday deals. Whew…it’s exhausting. These days are often stressful and fueled by competition and the thrill of finding the best deal for the lowest price. It seems that family traditions of sitting around the table playing board games or telling stories has recently been replaced by after Thanksgiving holiday shopping. Now don’t get me wrong, I love a good deal just as much as the next person but I also love the feeling of togetherness, quality time and giving back.
It can be difficult to hand your child over for lessons (of any kind!). As a swim instructor for many years, I can offer these few tips to help with struggles you may encounter as a parent.
As I’m returning home from another family vacation, it strikes me how the concept of a “Time-out” has changed for my wife and I over our 18 years of parenthood. When our kids were young, I was fairly prolific with the use of time-outs for discipline. Some of my time-outs may even go down in annals of parenting lore…the infamous “tuna fish sandwich time-out” will forever live in my family’s holiday stories. We found time-outs to be very effective at helping our girls understand there were consequences to making poor choices. They helped give our kids an opportunity to cool off, reflect on the situation and think through other alternative choices they could have made instead. I particularly liked that time-outs were firm and sent a strong message in our house.
My fiancé, Juan, and I have been together for five long years. We were set up as mixed doubles partners in a local tournament in Baton Rouge and our relationship blossomed from there. We were part of a huge tennis community, where we would play everyday, and end the day drinking beers and eating burgers with all of our friends. We were living the life. Then, the real world hit us like a ton of bricks. We got pregnant, and our world was turned upside down.
We have a beautiful daughter, whom we both adore, but raising a child is stressful, and we didn’t have the time to play tennis as much. We both still played, but one played while the other stayed home to watch the baby. Soon, we were drifting apart; living separate lives, but under one roof. Then, I got a job offer in Houston. Two weeks later I moved with the baby, leaving Juan behind for a couple of months before he could join us.
I love November! It reminds us all to be thankful and I really believe that November is the month to celebrate your gratitude. You can bring that spirit into your life by focusing on why you’re grateful and by giving another person a reason to be thankful. This month I have taken the challenge to surprise someone with an unexpected, thoughtful gift. It doesn’t have to be big.
The days are getting shorter, the leaves are changing, the weather is cooling down and so is your summertime momentum to do all the fun things you were doing just a few weeks ago. You awake to a chilly morning, go to work and by nightfall, where has all your energy gone? As the Fall and holiday seasons approach we have to be mindful, now more than ever, of staying fit even when we don’t want to. I for one get lazy when it’s cooler outside so here are some ways to keep active during these trying times until we are able to relax and take in the warm weather again.